I have new Norton stones (bought in the last couple of months), the 220/1K and 4K/8K combos. The 220/1K was made in Mexico, the 4K side in Italy, and the 8K side in the US. I think you'll know when you're done lapping, especially with the 4K/8K. The whole surface will be really quite smooth.
One thing I've noticed, is that if I mark the stone with a pencil, and then go to wet/dry paper on a flat granite surface plate (made for sharpening, etc.), the pencil marks will be removed fairly quickly, but the stone will not be flat enough or sufficiently lapped. If I go straight from the sand paper, remark the stone with pencil, and start lapping with a DMT, I'll notice right away that the stone isn't flat. It seems like, at least from my experience, the sand paper is removing the pencil marks before it's perfectly flat, while the DMT will only remove the pencil marks when it's really flat. I was lapping my new Les Lats from Ardennes last night, and figuring it's such a hard stone (especially the creamy side), I started off on some wet/dry paper at first. I didn't want to smooth out my DMT right away. I was surprised at how quickly the pencil marks were removed, but it was very obvious once I put it on my DMT that it wasn't flat. It took quite a bit of work, but I knew I was done when the pencil marks were gone from the DMT.
I'm not sure how much I had to take off when I was lapping my Nortons, but for me, progress was really quite noticeable because the whole surface was really smooth except for one corner which looked ok, but felt kind of rough. Again, I had started off with wet/dry paper and all the pencil marks were gone, but that one corner just didn't feel right until I flattened it with my DMT. I haven't had problems with either stone (quality wise), though I tend to use the 220/1K combo more for repair work now, and my coticules for the rest.
If you do use the granite surface plate, just be sure the whole side is pretty smooth, especially on the 1K, 4K or 8K sides. The whole side should have a uniform feeling when honing a razor, and then you'll know it's done. Otherwise, it will be really gritty on areas that aren't quite flat. If you've got the DMT, I'd say do most of the work on the wet/dry paper until it all feels pretty smooth, then finish it off with the DMT so you know it's absolutely flat. Then, if you want to use finer wet/dry paper, you can go back to the surface plate. The little instruction booklet that comes with the Nortons says what kind of grit to use. I don't have that in front of me, but it seems like it suggested the 4K/8K sides should be finished with somewhere around 400-600 grit.